In his article
“When Good Intentions Go Bad” in
Psychology Today, John R. "Jack" Schafer, Ph.D. talks about the ways in which
good communications can turn ugly. People think things are going to go
one way and then they don’t.
Good communicators not only wordsmith but they also incorporate psychological
components into their communications.
He goes on to talk about the push pull qualities of certain statements,
the us-against-them paradigm, cognitive dissonance and ego. Often, intentions
get gnarled because of these complicated psychological processes that
are necessary for good communication.
One of the things that many divorcing couples lack is good communication
skills. What are the chances that poor communication between you and your
spouse will cause an uncontested divorce to morph into a contested divorce?
You can greatly reduce that chance by hiring an attorney to focus on your
For a divorce to be uncontested, both parties must agree on child custody
and visitation, child support, tax deductions and exemptions, division
of the marital assets/debts and alimony, among other things. If there
is any official disagreement on these, then your divorce is considered
contested. According to
this article, divorce can be a 7 year event, with the year prior to divorce full of
anxiety, plus up to 5 years after for the ensuing emotional healing involved.
This is why it is best to have an attorney on your side, just in case intentions go awry.
If you and your spouse agree on an uncontested divorce, that’s a
great first step. Hiring an attorney to help you through the process and focus on
your interests is the next step to ensuring your intentions go as planned.
Beau R. Layfield is an accomplished Baton Rouge divorce lawyer. For a
free case evaluation at Layfield Law Firm with regards to your uncontested divorce or any other
issues relating to family law, please